Are we the result of what we learn?

We learn in the past, but we aren't the result of that.
I mean we do suffer in the past, love, cry, laugh in the past, but that's of no use to the present.
Present has its own challenges, its own good and bad side.
We can neither blame nor be grateful to the past for what is happening now.
Each new experience has nothing whatsoever to do with the past experience. It's always new.
Again I talk to myself in the forme of talking to other (as if someone is actually here)
no one ever stays the same.
people who quickly get this obvious fact of life are more alive than anyone else, they don't expect people to behave as they did when they first met, nor do they want people to stay the same as when they found each other.
People aren't used to that way of thinking. They want everything to stay the same
And the consequence of that is pain.
We aren't ever the person people wish we were. We are who we decide to be.
yes it is easy to blame others, but honestly our successes or failures are entirely our own responsibility.
And at the end even if we try to stop time it will be complete waste of energy.